It's good that you still talk, but remember not to sell yourself short, Kay. Don't let your friendship be defined just by what Jay wants. *hugs*
 

*pat pat. I know how you feel. But no worries.

You must believe that there's always another person out there who is better for you. You must believe the next will be better.
 

:oD I'm glad I can detect a more positve vibe from you! As Hrugaar said, don't sell urself short. Chin up & move forward! There is much to do before we are too old to do it!
 

There is a saying which I believe to be true: To have loved and lost is better than not at all. Remember this and move on, not with bitterness but with happiness and optimism for the future. :) LK
 

Hi.

I have been reading and following on the developments without any comments. But I guess there's something I want to say.

It's always the one that we love most, hurts us the most. To be more diplomatic, we can say that well, different people have different needs , or the needs of our loved one change, so, if we no longer meet up to what they expect, then we just accept that.

But, hey, this is about love. This is about personal relationships. This is not about matching expectations, although that is what most relationships are based on today.

If one is as easy to let go of a relationship as this, i.e. citing differences in expectations or citing the partner not being able to change as he wants, then that one person is not really worth our undivided love nor worth being in our circle of acquaintances at all.

Why waste time mulling over such a person? Why waste energy over one who gives up so easily? Why waste brain cells and tears for someone who is as selfish as that?

Of course, we can't avoid such situations in life, but when we do fall into one in an unfortunate event such as this, we learn. And we move on. We don't continue to be at the person's foot as and when we are called. We stand up. For ourselves.

In time to come, you will see that your undying love and care for such a person is really quite unworthy, no matter which way one puts it. But by all means, if it makes you feel better now to continue loving and caring for the moment, do so. But also do take care not to ONLY shower your care and attention until you are dried and wimpy! It is really not worth it. In every aspect. Like the others say, there is definitely one that is many times better than what we have lost.
 

ru - *hugs* Our friendship will stay. I know I need to move on and time will definitely tell but I also know that I'm always there if he wants to get back together. He might have made a mistake, I too do mistakes and we can work it out together, like we used to.

defiant85 - Whether the next one is better, that is uncertain but I can try to believe so. However, what is certain is I had my best time of my life together with Jay.

aj - I used to think I can grow old together with Jay and still like the idea alot. Don't worry, I'm keeping my chin up and looking forward to make some achievements!

anonymous - :) I'm pretty optimistic now about what I want to do. Jay is going to be proud.

someone who cares - Don't ask me why but I won't be hating him for his actions. I could be mad or angry but I guess the strongest feeling of all called love overpowers them all.